Tim Goodenough is a Certified Meta-Coach and holds a trainers qualification in both NLP and Neuro-Semantics. He is a member of the MCF. He was the full time mental coach for the Sharks in the 2008 Super 14 competition. Before that he worked at Standard Bank as the Senior Manager for Talent Support in Personal and Business Banking and was part of the Leadership Development, Coaching & Mentoring Unit. Tim looked after Executive Coaching and Mentoring for Personal and Business Banking, as well as designing coaching and mentoring workshops, facilitating coaching and mentoring workshops and training and assessing external facilitators. Tim sat on the Standard Bank coaching accreditation panel. Tim specializes in working with Elite Athletes and is currently the resident Mental Toughness Coach for the Investec international rugby academy which is lead by Dick Muir locally and Murray Mexted internationally. The Academy has different levels of courses held throughout South Africa for high performance coaches and players.
I want powerful personal development to become as easy to access as the local gym and I want it help make the path to healing and growth to be as aspirational as representing your country. My strategy (borrowed from Malcolm Gladwells’ the Tipping point) is to work with the highest profile teams and individuals I can, and as they share the story of their success and growth (and sometimes their bounce-back), part of that story is the readily available personal development techniques and processes that assisted them. I have started collecting stories on my blog: http://raisingtalentthebook.com/category/stories/ of these teams and individuals that have taken a step up. I also believe in South Africa we have some of the best Sports Psychs and Mental Coaches around and I enjoy learning and collaborating with my peers, I believe as we learn from each other and help each other grow the difference we make grows exponentially.
I have also been part of some tough loses, where we either fell desperately short or didn’t arrive on the day at all. When we don’t arrive on the day that hurts and frustrates the most as it’s my area of influence. Sport is tough. On any given day 50% of the people competing lose. In South Africa we have such a passionate fan base that often that passion turns to intense criticism when there is a high profile loss.
In the past I would sulk and nit-pick over every detail to see what could be improved – I would also take it very very personally. This style was unsustainable and so I had to work on getting a healthier balance between frustration, learning and bouncing-back. Now I still nit-pick, however the work I have done to develop my self-esteem means I am not devastated and want to crawl under a rock, I am just naturally disappointed and frustrated and want to focus my energy on learning. Once I realized and admitted that I had a self-esteem problem, I focused on solving it. I wasn’t happy with the impact of the existing self-esteem processes I found in my research so decided to create my own which has made a big difference to me and my clients. This new model and set of techniques will be the core of my upcoming book on Self-Esteem which I am very proud of.
My two key talent’s is firstly taking others peoples brilliant insights and putting them uniquely together and then finding the next piece. My second talent is that I am able to work out the HOW and create processes for others to fastrack their growth and learning through use of that HOW. How do you turn your goal into a purpose? How do you get mentally tough? How do you develop healthier self-esteem? How do you change deeply held beliefs that are locked in the body? How do you close the knowing-doing gap?
How I Use My Mind | I am a big believer in being coached and self-coaching. Almost all my skills and successes were founded on hundreds of hours of coaching work. I am also a believer in continuous personal development and spend a lot time networking and learning from my peers, reading books in my field and attending trainings – and then experimenting with ideas that emerge from my learning. In my earlier part of my career I spent too much time in my head and not enough time trying and experimenting and failing. Now I do much more of all three and it has made a huge difference.
Massive failure can lead to massive breakthrough and growth – if you process it effectively and mine it for lessons. So although it’s tough to fail, and fail big – which happens in life, and more frequently in my job, part of what helps me bounce back is knowing that if I just stay with my curiosity and frustration I will discover an important growth, healing or high performance insight or solution.
My Future Dreams And Ambitions | From a sports point of view I want to win the Rugby World Cup with the Springboks and get to a stage where I have options to be involved in team development cycles around the major tournaments and competitions around the world: Olympic Games, World Cups, and leagues like the NFL and Champions League. From a learning point of view I want to be able to travel to more trainings, conference and spend more time with key people I learn and collaborate with, and not just learn via books, podcasts, skypes and emails. I want to keep on writing books that add value and provide quality personal development processes and products whilst balancing that with a rich family life. I am not quite sure about how all this will fit together. I trust I will figure it out – I just don’t know how long it will take.