Kahn Morbee is lead singer of The Parlotones. Kahn’s prolific songwriting has made them the most loved and successful South African band achieving multiplatinum-selling status whilst also gaining major international acclaim and fans.
My Definition Of Success | It is NOT accolades, adoration, fame or fortune, it is NOT praise, attention, envy or desire….IT IS the fearless pursuit of that which you love, and the unconditional love for those you love and those that love you, and love for even those that may not love you!!
How This Has Changed Over The Years | My definition has changed with age, experience and the lessons of life. in our formative years we’re taught to embrace fear, and so our definition of success becomes fear of failure, fear of money, fear of criticism, fear of rejection, fear of loneliness, fear of sadness, fear of government, fear of the future, fear of a God, fear of crimeetc. etc…. and so the young, naive, imaginative and brave soon become old, dull, monotone and afraid because we subscribe to a model of subservience, we subscribe to the system we’re born into because we fear being rejected from that very system and all it’s prescribed agendas passed down from generation to generation. Of course I also feared many things and still do because the system taught me that, BUT I try to unlearn all of that and aspire to a fearless existence. I guess in essence success is the pursuit of a fearless existence…. I guess I want to look back on my life and feel that I achieved something of substance, even if I may not be the best, most successful, I’m driven by wanting to live a life fulfilled.
My Highlights | Our first album launch. It was very exciting and I felt a sense of accomplishment for something I’d dreamt of. Our first award was a proud moment because it meant approval and kind of eradicated a lot ofself doubt and gave me a belief and confidence in myself. Being the first SA band to headline and fill the dome and being a part of the World Cup kick off concert in 2010 were amazing moments that I’ll cherish forever.
The Difference Between good And Great | People who are good acquire external information to be the product they desire. People who are great look within, and express outwardly as naturally as breathing. Good people can become great when they take that external information to find the greatness that already lies within. Some are just born great because they realise early on how to extract their internal brilliance. Too often we’re looking at the traits of greatness and trying to replicate that and in doing so suppressing what true greatness may reside within.
What True Greatness Really Is | We’ve become obsessed with a society that attaches fame, wealth or sporting skill to greatness. BUT true greatness exists amongst the unsung heroes who selflessly give their lives to the fearless pursuit of what they love NOT because they sought after adoration. I can’t truly say what greatness is because it is all relative, I believe my gran is great because she raised me but she is not admired by millions. Is greatness quantifiable by the size of your bank balance, followers or skill. NO!! Rather find something you truley LOVE and try become GREAT at it, make it your reason for waking up and pursue that everyday. DO NOT find something GREAT and attempt to fall in love with it because you could potentially achieve societies version of greatness but you may just feel a little hollow.
1. Find a passion
2. Be passionate about mastering it
3. Have fun
4. Don’t take yourself too seriously
5. Be good to people, because other people will then WANT to help you achieve success. You can have abundent talent but if you’re a dickhead you’ll soon lose support
I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I –
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.
I do sometimes struggle to stick to the path because the other path seems less complicated and treacherous but then I remind myself that fear is a curse.